Kink Meme Day 14: How would you say real life BDSM/kink varies from fantasy BDSM/kink?

For the most part I have been able to act out every kink/BDSM fantasy I have wanted.  Most of this has happened over the past two years but has still happened.  Though I would still like to see what living with two cute kinky submissive girls would be like.   But they would have to get along with one another of course.   I think this fantasy is honestly going to be a bit too far out of reach for me.